Ebook Words That Hurt Words That Heal Revised Edition How the Words You Choose Shape Your Destiny edition by Joseph Telushkin Religion Spirituality eBooks
From the New York Times bestselling author of Rebbe comes this newly revised edition of Words That Hurt, Words That Heal—an invaluable guide in how choosing the right words can enrich our relationships and give us insight to improve every facet of our lives.
“I don’t know anyone whose life would not be blessed by this book.”—Rabbi Harold S. Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People and Nine Essential Things I’ve Learned About Life
Joseph Telushkin is renowned for his warmth, his erudition, and his richly anecdotal insights, and in Words That Hurt, Words That Heal he focuses these gifts on the words we use in public and in private, revealing their tremendous power to shape relationships. With wit and wide-ranging intelligence, Rabbi Telushkin explains the harm in spreading gossip, rumors, or others’ secrets, and how unfair anger, excessive criticism, or lying undermines true communication. By sensitizing us to subtleties of speech we may never have considered before, he shows us how to turn every exchange into an opportunity.
In this fully revised edition, Joseph Telushkin brings this classic into the modern age. Remarkable for its clarity and practicality, Words That Hurt, Words That Heal illuminates the powerful effects we create by what we say and how we say it.
Ebook Words That Hurt Words That Heal Revised Edition How the Words You Choose Shape Your Destiny edition by Joseph Telushkin Religion Spirituality eBooks
"I have read this book two or three times, although I am not Jewish. Because of that, I am a better human being.
I am a mother, so I paid special attention to sections of the book describing the relationship between children and parents. I will never forget the story of the woman who, 40 years later, still remembers her mother's cruel comment with regards to her body shape. When I heard someone at work talking about how she told her overweight 6 year old to "lose the weight" because "nobody likes a fat ballerina", it hit me especially hard. That lady had no idea how much that thoughtless comment hurt her daughter.
My daughter also went through a time when she was very overweight, but I never shamed her. I told her that she was going to try better eating habits in order to be healthier. Simple things, like eat fruit before snacking on anything else. She lost the weight and avoided the danger of childhood diabetes, and also avoided psychological damage down the line because of the tactful way we handled it.
This is the example that stuck with me the most. Obviously there are many more moral lessons to be learned from this book.
Never boring or preachy"
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Words That Hurt Words That Heal Revised Edition How the Words You Choose Shape Your Destiny edition by Joseph Telushkin Religion Spirituality eBooks Reviews :
Words That Hurt Words That Heal Revised Edition How the Words You Choose Shape Your Destiny edition by Joseph Telushkin Religion Spirituality eBooks Reviews
- Once I read to page 12, the author's "words" became overtly political and continued for the first chapter. If the author is writing a book about words that heal, why would he divide his audience in the first chapter with his political examples? I heard the author, Joseph Telushkin, interviewed by the national radio host (and an author himself) Dennis Prager. While I like the premise of the book, I do not need political examples from Joseph Telushkin, who does not hide his political leanings. When the author was being interviewed on the Dennis Prager Show, he did not come across as political, but his book says otherwise. The Prager interview with the author, Joseph Telushkin, was very misleading and I regret purchasing this book. Looking back, I am surprised Dennis Prager was so enthusiastic about this book.
- I have read this book two or three times, although I am not Jewish. Because of that, I am a better human being.
I am a mother, so I paid special attention to sections of the book describing the relationship between children and parents. I will never forget the story of the woman who, 40 years later, still remembers her mother's cruel comment with regards to her body shape. When I heard someone at work talking about how she told her overweight 6 year old to "lose the weight" because "nobody likes a fat ballerina", it hit me especially hard. That lady had no idea how much that thoughtless comment hurt her daughter.
My daughter also went through a time when she was very overweight, but I never shamed her. I told her that she was going to try better eating habits in order to be healthier. Simple things, like eat fruit before snacking on anything else. She lost the weight and avoided the danger of childhood diabetes, and also avoided psychological damage down the line because of the tactful way we handled it.
This is the example that stuck with me the most. Obviously there are many more moral lessons to be learned from this book.
Never boring or preachy - I really liked this book. It speaks to a problem all around each of us regardless of our faith background. The author gives such clear examples of how our words can hurt or even destroy others. I certainly saw myself in many of the negative examples but I also realized how true what Telushkin says is evident in daily life around us. I could not help recall a saying of my mother from years ago" If you can't say something good, don't say anything at all". This is what Telushkin is saying as well. But he goes beyond not saying anything at all and suggests ways to change what and how we speak to and of others. He supports his philosophy with Jewish teachings and biblical sayings which makes the ideas more powerful.
Some stories he tells are sad while others are funny. But all spoke to me about being more careful how I use my words. This was an enjoyable read no matter what your faith. I know anyone who reads this book will think more carefully before speaking again! - Wow .... Everyone needs to read this. I wish I had read it when I was younger it would have save me some of the grief I have had over saying things that I wish I could take back. It is an easy read and very thought provoking. I am mentoring a young woman and we are going to go through this book together after we finish the one we are on now. I find since reading the book, I concentrate more on listening and less about talking. Anytime I hear myself say "Well, I think .... blah blah blah" I ask myself what credentials do I have to think anything about the situation? AND has anyone asked me what I think? If so then I can share. This is working so much better for my relationship with my grown daughters. So please go ahead and ask me what I think! Oh, since you ask .... I think you should buy this book
- Very few of us think before we speak, and Rabbi Telushkin limns the consequences in this compelling volume. The old adage about sticks and stones aside, words DO hurt. They may not make us bleed physically, but their damage is real and can be lasting.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that values winning above all else. Political candidates smear each other on the campaign trail, the rich and famous publish tell-all biographies to get back at family and ex-lovers, and when we feel like we're losing an argument, we cripple our opponents by criticizing them, not the behaviour that offended us. ("You're a liar" vs. "I don't think you're telling the truth.") The end result can be a ruptured family, traumatized child, or destroyed reputation, not to mention the erosion of one's own status as an ethical being.
Being a rabbi, Telushkin liberally underscores his points with Jewish-themed anecdotes and rabbinical commentary, but the lessons imparted are invaluable to people of all colors and creeds. I've been guilty of a lot of the behaviours that he cautions us against, and this book has inspired me to try being a better person.
Words have the power to make or break our personal and professional relationships. "Words That Hurt, Words That Heal" is a wakeup call that warns us to use the gift of speech wisely and benignly.